The same thing has happened to me… enough times that I should have learned the lesson by now! Once you make it transactional (activity X for reward Y) kids realize that 90% of their power in that exchange is to withhold or drop out. I don’t think it’s all bad — your daughter probably learned something about assessing her needs, judging the value of rewards (and maybe a little bit more about negotiating!)

What works for us in the long term is to use “soft” rewards that are tied to the activity. As in “I really wish we could go to the library to look at Peppa Pig books, but mom won’t let me drive around with this dirty car. Any ideas? Maybe we can do it together?” Of course, if you go this route you also have to be prepared to accept it if you fail, your offer is not good enough, and walk away until they decide to opt in to some future chore.